There was A LOT of controversy around Fantasia's interview and comments about the woman’s role in relationships. Men and women alike jumped on a bandwagon and had LOTS of things to say, especially the men. What got me was everybody focused on what Fantasia said about submission (the men loved that part) but totally MISSED what her husband had to say. Her first interview was on the Breakfast Club and she talked about the woman being the neck and the man not being able to move his head without the woman, so the two are indeed equal and work together. She's. Not. Wrong. Catch my talk with Deborah Warren below.
I am specifically speaking to people with a high standard of EXCELLENCE. You will have a hard time in this life. I am not speaking ill: This is truth from personal experience. Why is this the case? Because people have become accustomed to substandard living that your bar of excellence is outside their realm. Excellence is a foreign concept to many people.
Do NOT become frustrated or disappointed. Push higher. Reach higher. Find the higher echelons of society who walk in the same realm (at a minimum) of excellence as you. This will not be easy. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it. It will take hard work, dedication, and persistence. You will hurt. You will face many obstacles. You will feel a lot of emotions but push through them, because eventually you get there.
From month to month, things happen in our lives. The past few months have presented complex situations and adversity. Still, we overcome! We overcome because we are greater than situations and adversity.
Last year, I was overcome with chronic back pain. I learned I had several discs in my spine that were out of alignment causing a pinched nerve in my lower back. My initial thought was, "Lord, why? If it isn't one thing, it's another." Eventually, my thinking shifted to, "Lord, I'm grateful that I know this was occurring in my body and can now take the necessary steps to fix it."
A person's heritage speaks not only to where they originate but also to who they will become. It is important to know where you come from. In knowing where you come from, you understand why things happen the way they happen in your life. Proverbially, the dots are connected and you get answers to questions you never even knew you had.
What I love the most about learning about my heritage is the commonalities in my kin. I recently attended a family reunion and learned so much about my lineage. For instance, I learned that two sisters produced a lineage of 97 ministers; 97 people preaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ! I also learned how many infant deaths (mostly male) and the causes. I learned why some of the siblings from my original clan didn't have many children. For instance, one died young (age 32) from asthma. Another died from asthma when he was only 16.
To be honest, for a long time, I had a problem saying "no." I genuinely love helping people. The problem with this is I taught people that I was secondary. Saying "yes" was unhealthy and stressful for me. It taught me that I had to be there for everyone but myself.
Essentially, I ran myself into the ground and nothing good comes from that! I had to discipline myself to say "no" even when I was available. It was hard! I like helping and serving. What I needed to learn was balance. I needed to learn to say "no" to some things and people so I could say "yes" to myself.
Wisdom moments with The Authority in Global Business Dynamics.